Sometimes we have our moments (no not 'that time of the month' moments) like mini epiphanies, where we actually switch off from subconscious thinking and realize what we have/what we are doing. I had one such moment earlier when, naming no names, a certain person proved once again that they are indeed a total waste of time. Now this may seem weird but it kinda lead me towards realizing how good I've actually got it over here. Too many of us too often always take things for granted, cliche as it is, it's most definitely true. For those who haven't seen it, watch Lucky Number Slevin (quality film) and take note of the Rabbi's taking for granted scene...so true.
Why do most things lose their appeal over time? When do things become 'normal'? This is to me a way of thought more than anything else....We all live in our own little world's, all in a bubble, some live in a bigger bubble than others and some choose to make their bubble bigger. I say this because of our knowledge is self limiting, the more we venture out and gain information, the bigger our bubble gets. Not in terms of simply reading a book, but living it, playing sports, travelling, anything really.
What I don't understand is when someone gets an opportunity of a lifetime, why they wouldn't take it and then some? May be it's because they are blinded by what they don't see? Or scared of what is going to happen? Who knows....but if someone said to you here's a million pounds, no strings attached you'd probably take it, right? I guess there must be an element of 'effort' in this opportunity malarkey, as in, although some opportunities are amazing....they may also require a huge amount of effort in order to achieve them.
I say this because I am unbelievably fortunate to be where I am today, who do I thank for this? Tough question....I guess we learn from everyone, it's hard to see why we accept information/traits from one person but not from the next, do we learn from people we trust or like, or are we impartial to most things that people say? Who knows, for me now though it is motivation, again I don't know from where this comes from...well I have my own thoughts on this, but it's too long and boring to talk about.
When I take these 'moments' I realize that I'm doing something good, I don't want to be compared to anyone accept myself, we all have our own goals so it's pointless to compare (even though we do). I think you have to take the person as a whole and compare to how they were to how they are and to how they are going to be or what they will do.
I want to live my life and be able to be proud of it, for my own benefit ultimately. Of course making your loved ones proud is probably hand in hand with this. For me, the sudden realisation that I'm in Sweden, have an amazing fiancee then all the rest (i.e. material things...car, new apartment etc) is almost a constant wake up call to say enjoy life and be proud of myself. Now of course we can't always do seemingly huge things all the time, e.g. live abroad, get a new job etc, but this goes back to why things become 'normal' and why we sometimes forget to appreciate what we have- if we thought that going to work everyday, not just to pay the mortgage or because we 'have to' could be an exciting/interesting thing, then we might enjoy work a little more! Ok, hard one to contemplate I guess.
But for me, I can't ever sit here and think that what I'm doing is 'normal'...it's almost self inspiring (again for me, not necessarily for the next person), I love going to the gym, playing squash etc etc, as soon as I fall in to the trap that it's normal or routine I'm probably not going to do it anymore. This is something we all don't do enough of, to sit and think about it in a different way can help this.
I'm actually looking forward to my next 'moment', they aren't all the same and sometimes you think 'shit, what next' for example, but that's not always a bad thing- I mean when we change we actually might lose a part of what we had before, then hindsight can show us it was good/bad. If only we could use this every time to move forward and appreciate what we have at that present moment and what we want/will do.......life for everyone would be much more fun.
Why do most things lose their appeal over time? When do things become 'normal'? This is to me a way of thought more than anything else....We all live in our own little world's, all in a bubble, some live in a bigger bubble than others and some choose to make their bubble bigger. I say this because of our knowledge is self limiting, the more we venture out and gain information, the bigger our bubble gets. Not in terms of simply reading a book, but living it, playing sports, travelling, anything really.
What I don't understand is when someone gets an opportunity of a lifetime, why they wouldn't take it and then some? May be it's because they are blinded by what they don't see? Or scared of what is going to happen? Who knows....but if someone said to you here's a million pounds, no strings attached you'd probably take it, right? I guess there must be an element of 'effort' in this opportunity malarkey, as in, although some opportunities are amazing....they may also require a huge amount of effort in order to achieve them.
I say this because I am unbelievably fortunate to be where I am today, who do I thank for this? Tough question....I guess we learn from everyone, it's hard to see why we accept information/traits from one person but not from the next, do we learn from people we trust or like, or are we impartial to most things that people say? Who knows, for me now though it is motivation, again I don't know from where this comes from...well I have my own thoughts on this, but it's too long and boring to talk about.
When I take these 'moments' I realize that I'm doing something good, I don't want to be compared to anyone accept myself, we all have our own goals so it's pointless to compare (even though we do). I think you have to take the person as a whole and compare to how they were to how they are and to how they are going to be or what they will do.
I want to live my life and be able to be proud of it, for my own benefit ultimately. Of course making your loved ones proud is probably hand in hand with this. For me, the sudden realisation that I'm in Sweden, have an amazing fiancee then all the rest (i.e. material things...car, new apartment etc) is almost a constant wake up call to say enjoy life and be proud of myself. Now of course we can't always do seemingly huge things all the time, e.g. live abroad, get a new job etc, but this goes back to why things become 'normal' and why we sometimes forget to appreciate what we have- if we thought that going to work everyday, not just to pay the mortgage or because we 'have to' could be an exciting/interesting thing, then we might enjoy work a little more! Ok, hard one to contemplate I guess.
But for me, I can't ever sit here and think that what I'm doing is 'normal'...it's almost self inspiring (again for me, not necessarily for the next person), I love going to the gym, playing squash etc etc, as soon as I fall in to the trap that it's normal or routine I'm probably not going to do it anymore. This is something we all don't do enough of, to sit and think about it in a different way can help this.
I'm actually looking forward to my next 'moment', they aren't all the same and sometimes you think 'shit, what next' for example, but that's not always a bad thing- I mean when we change we actually might lose a part of what we had before, then hindsight can show us it was good/bad. If only we could use this every time to move forward and appreciate what we have at that present moment and what we want/will do.......life for everyone would be much more fun.
