Not your average start to the day-watching Queer Eye for the Straight Guy….some people may laugh. Although these ‘personal improvement’ type programs aren’t really my thing, no not because I don’t need improving, just not overly interesting- it’s not real life, or is it?
But as I watch a bunch of beyond camp men get all flirty with a totally normal bloke with a shit hole of an apartment, they did mention something that caught my eye. Basically this poor bloke had a wife and two kids (yeah, how normal is that) but the point was he never had time just with his misses: this got me thinking.
Not that I don’t spend enough time with Johanna by any means, it wasn’t that. The time we spend together hopefully isn’t ‘just because it happens’ type thing. I mean every second of living with someone can’t possibly be ‘wonderful’ or ‘fantastic’ etc etc. One thing that I probably really suck at (also what this guy on TV had problems with) is making my lady feel special at times, not just the ‘I love you’s’ and hugs etc, but the so called ‘romantic’ side. I guess in this modern world, being cliché isn’t such a great thing, I mean it’s considered more sexist to hold a door for a woman than slam it in their face. ‘Ladies first’ has lost all meaning except when it’s launching yourself out of a plane or something.
What’s a guy to do? I mean I can’t cook some fancy meal, I can’t dance for shit, my words aren’t exactly from Romeo and Juliet, I have no money to buy extravagant gifts, when I have time alone with her, I’m recovering from my work.
Ok, I’m not talking my self up now am I? I guess thinking about someone when they aren’t with you is more than enough, but if you never tell the person, it just seems rude. This guy on the program lived in New York so job done- a horse and cart ride, a dance in Central Park and a lovely picnic…..bastard.
A relationship (as Jim’s legend of a Dad says) ‘isn’t about animal lusting’…..ok, not quite what I’m in to, but although I am a hopeless romantic, I am useless at wooing my lady, I must be doing something right. Christ alive I’m not exactly Brad Pitt but not E.T. either. Hopefully I have something to offer, although difficult at times to see it. Making someone happy doesn’t have to involve money, or physical things; giving off positive vibes definitely gets its rewards. Offering your brain (your thoughts/advice/feelings) to someone to help them through the days, the boredom of life at times, the shit times and good times is unequivocal.
May be we all need to try a little harder to give that special person some attention, be it friends or partners. It’s definitely the small things that make the difference (before you pervs think anything, no not that), saying how you feel, making someone laugh, having fun is all part of it. I can’t offer the World to Johanna but I can try…..
But as I watch a bunch of beyond camp men get all flirty with a totally normal bloke with a shit hole of an apartment, they did mention something that caught my eye. Basically this poor bloke had a wife and two kids (yeah, how normal is that) but the point was he never had time just with his misses: this got me thinking.
Not that I don’t spend enough time with Johanna by any means, it wasn’t that. The time we spend together hopefully isn’t ‘just because it happens’ type thing. I mean every second of living with someone can’t possibly be ‘wonderful’ or ‘fantastic’ etc etc. One thing that I probably really suck at (also what this guy on TV had problems with) is making my lady feel special at times, not just the ‘I love you’s’ and hugs etc, but the so called ‘romantic’ side. I guess in this modern world, being cliché isn’t such a great thing, I mean it’s considered more sexist to hold a door for a woman than slam it in their face. ‘Ladies first’ has lost all meaning except when it’s launching yourself out of a plane or something.
What’s a guy to do? I mean I can’t cook some fancy meal, I can’t dance for shit, my words aren’t exactly from Romeo and Juliet, I have no money to buy extravagant gifts, when I have time alone with her, I’m recovering from my work.
Ok, I’m not talking my self up now am I? I guess thinking about someone when they aren’t with you is more than enough, but if you never tell the person, it just seems rude. This guy on the program lived in New York so job done- a horse and cart ride, a dance in Central Park and a lovely picnic…..bastard.
A relationship (as Jim’s legend of a Dad says) ‘isn’t about animal lusting’…..ok, not quite what I’m in to, but although I am a hopeless romantic, I am useless at wooing my lady, I must be doing something right. Christ alive I’m not exactly Brad Pitt but not E.T. either. Hopefully I have something to offer, although difficult at times to see it. Making someone happy doesn’t have to involve money, or physical things; giving off positive vibes definitely gets its rewards. Offering your brain (your thoughts/advice/feelings) to someone to help them through the days, the boredom of life at times, the shit times and good times is unequivocal.
May be we all need to try a little harder to give that special person some attention, be it friends or partners. It’s definitely the small things that make the difference (before you pervs think anything, no not that), saying how you feel, making someone laugh, having fun is all part of it. I can’t offer the World to Johanna but I can try…..
